Every one of my friends and maternity mates all have “taught” their child to self sooth either through controlled crying or cry it out. It’s not wrong but I just know deep down it’s not for me.
Don’t get me wrong, I get so tempted at least once a month as I hear about yet another success story and speak to another mummy who has blissful hours of sleep at night, but I can’t help but think at what cost. It’s that which convinces me to dismiss the idea as quickly as it enters my mind.
I’ve never wanted to write about it as I’ve never been able to find the right words to explain why I am so fundamentally against it without sounding like I am judging parents that use it. Because truely – I’m not. I’m a firm believer that every parent needs to find what works for them as every child is different and therefore the way we parent needs to be different too.
I read this post today though which articulates it far better than I ever could hence why I’m suddenly writing about it: Self Soothing: Why Babies Are Not Like Adults – http://wp.me/p2p2M2-1tn
If it works for you and you’re strong enough to do it, great. But I know I just don’t have it in me.
So yes, my daughter is 14 months old and yes, it’s still a very rare occasion when she sleeps through the night but for now we’ll continue to answer her cries in the night and just enjoy the early morning cuddles while they last. They’re small for such a short space of time and I’m sure this stage won’t last forever (PLEASE tell me this stage won’t last forever!!!)