So I posted this article on Facebook about how a new study has shown that working mums raise more successful children. Now I don’t necessarily agree with any of this research but it was nice to see something fighting the corner of the working mummy – the first I’ve seen over the past 12 months from the MANY articles that have passed my way during that time.
Since I made the decision to go back to work full time is amazing how many people felt the need to comment, including my own health visitor…a few of my personal favourites: “Oh, you’re going back to work full time?”, “You do know you get a full year off right?”, “Oh I loved staying off with my boys, they’re only young once you know!”, “You do know you’ll miss her first words and steps right?” (*please note the first words have been said and both my husband and I were present!*)
While incredibly helpful as these comments may be (or not!) my lesson from this is that it’s incredibly sad how defensive everyone becomes when faced with a choice someone has made which is different to theirs. Yes I chose to go back to work full time as not only is my career important to me and not only is the money (extremely!) useful but I also wanted to teach the bear that as a woman you CAN have it all. Home and work – it’s bloody hard work but it is possible. Do I miss her? Absolutely but this is the best choice for our family and we make sure that every moment we do spend together that me make it count and cherish them all.
Does this make it the right choice for everyone? Hell no and I don’t even want to try and convince anyone that my way is the “best” way (let’s be honest that doesn’t exist – one size DOES NOT fit all).
Mummies, whether they be stay at home or working, work hard no matter what and make the best choices for their family. As long as these babies are well loved and provided for in a safe, loving and secure home what does it really matter?
The point of this post? Well, next time a mummy friend shares their plans post maternity leave, just understand its their choice and not a judgement of anyone else. We do what we can for our families in the best way we know how.